As the world attempts to conquer COVID-19, you may be considering postponing your big day – by choice or necessity. For couples, this can be devastating – and it is okay to express these emotions. Whether you are feeling frustrated, confused, uncertain or sad, you have the loving support of many. No one could have ever anticipated that this situation would arise, and it is okay to go through the motions of grieving. If you are still in limbo on whether to postpone your wedding day, here are some commonly asked questions:
When should we make the call?
This is a question being asked by many couples right now. Living in a time of uncertainty is making this decision very hard. While we can assume that April is out of the question, May, June and July are still grey areas. To be safe, it may be best to look into options now of postponing if your wedding day falls within one of these months. While many couples have decided to “wait it out”, this could get messy. As time passes, more and more couples are rescheduling, and these dates will have to be fit between the late 2020 and 2021 weddings that have already been booked. If you choose to wait, you may find yourself in the sticky situation where there are not many date options available.
Where do we begin?
Contact your venue and vendors! It is important be flexible when postponing. Contact your venue during the first steps of this process. Find out the stipulations for postponing and availability. You will need to nail down a new date that is appropriate for you and your guests, as well as the circumstances. Currently, many couples are rescheduling for late fall 2020 and early spring 2021; and you may need to be more flexible with days such as booking on a Friday or Sunday vs. a traditional Saturday wedding. If your vendors have not contacted you to check in, it is okay to reach out to them! Ask them how they are doing and if there is any flexibility when rescheduling. Read through your contracts thoroughly and work through your options. If there is a rescheduling fee, this will likely be waived. Many venues and vendors are making every effort to work with their clients during this time and doing their best to accommodate you given the situation.
What is the best way to inform our guests?
If you have already sent out your save the date cards or invitations, that is okay! If you do decide to officially postpone, there are a multitude of different ways to inform your guests. Many couples have opted to send out a virtual “new plan” invitation or will send out a mass email explaining the situation. Several websites have created beautiful and unique postponement announcements at a great price for you to send to your guest list as well. If you have already printed your invitations for the previous date and have yet to send them out, reach out to your preferred stationer to see if they will consider creating new ones at a low cost.
What are our other options?
While many couples are willing to do whatever it takes to postpone their wedding day, many are moving in different directions. This may be a good time to reconsider if spending the money, time and energy on postponing is truly for you. You are not obligated to postpone! Some couples have chosen to elope once COVID-19 is cleared as a global threat, and some have chosen to host a small and intimate reception instead of their original large-wedding plans. Others are heading to the JP to say, “I do” or even doing “virtual weddings” with family and friends. No matter which way you choose to celebrate your special day, what truly matters is the person standing next to you.